Caveat: I'm not saying this is how EVERYONE thinks. There are wonderful, open-minded, and thoughtful writers and readers out there. These are simply my observations about the vast majority of many blogs and articles I've read.
You see a lot of applause given to female characters who defy the conventions of traditionally female roles. Example? Katniss Everdeen, the consummate hunter. The provider, breadwinner, protector. Practical. Aloof. A little emotionally constipated, which only seems to make her more endearing.
But why is it that, when a male character (particularly the main protagonist) falls too far from his traditional roles, it doesn't garner the same level of applause, if ANY? Make a male character sensitive and a bit clumsy and, suddenly, he's just not MANLY enough. Or *gasp* he's a WIMP. And he will only shed that stigma when he goes out and kills something with his hands! As if a man's character should be defined by his physical prowess and little else.
If the male character in question is a side character, then he's relegated to comic relief. B/c we all know male characters who exhibit traditionally female traits are SO FUN TO LAUGH AT, RIGHT? (note: sarcasm)
But what does this mean then? That traditionally female traits are undesirable in a protagonist? But that's both ridiculous and insulting. And not at all true considering the number of female protagonists who do not kick any butt at all. To stick with the Hunger Games characters, Prim was a stark contrast to Katniss in every way, but her strength, although quieter, was just as significant as her sister's.
Well then the next logical conclusion is that traditionally female traits are undesirable in a MALE protagonist. But... why? Why the double standard? Why are women applauded for not having perceived female traits, but men are considered emasculated for doing the same?
Is this a symptom of a larger issue? (Yes) Has the historical efforts of women to obtain equal rights with men given us the notion that only qualities found in men are what we should aspire to? INTELLECTUALLY, we know this isn't true. Then why is it socially acceptable for a girl to play with toy trucks, but so many parents throw a fit if their boy wants a doll?
(And by men having perceived female traits, I do NOT mean anything that women have been fighting for hundreds of years to overcome--the inequality, the diminished sense of being simply for having a different sex organ, the lack of civil rights, etc.)
I'd love to know what you guys think ♥
I say we just do away with the notion of gender roles :)
Have a great week, all!
August 8, 2011
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On the Inequality of Switching Gender Roles
2011-08-08T08:00:00-05:00
Lori M. Lee
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aleeza rauf · 711 weeks ago
okay, so i totally got off-topic, but yeah, great post! :)
Allison · 711 weeks ago
As for the effeminate man, there are some traditionally feminine traits that I don't think are bad for a male to show. Like crying, loving his hair, or being sensitive. Just to name a few. But a man who squeals and runs at the first sight of danger, or leaves the ladies to do all the heavy lifting, really isn't attractive.
And I don't think it's just women who impose this stereotype on men, it's mainly men imposing it on themselves. Men have a fragile ego that they want to protect from all things pink and sparkly.
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Bluestocking · 711 weeks ago
As a female writer, I am often drawn to strong female characters -- not because they are appropriating male roles (although that sometimes happens) but because they harness whatever strength they have (physical, mental, emotional etc.) to solve a goal. And I think right now is a unique time because there's so many strong female mc's out there -- some more hardcore than others -- and they are moving copies. Once upon a time, male protagonists dominated, but when 70% of readers are women...
Male characters who don't embody all the alpha hero traits can be trickier, imo. They must have an appealing voice or some way for the reader to emphasize with them even when they don't behave like a "hero." It falls to the author to show the human frailties of the character and make it resonate with the plot -- and frankly making things go boom is a lot easier.
I admit I get frustrated when a character does not act in a way that I think they should. Sometimes it's exasperation that the Gary/Mary Sue character can do everything perfectly or a character who wusses out instead of standing up for themselves, fighting back, etc. My perception of these situations is probably unconsciously driven by cultural expectations that have been indoctrinated in me, but again, it falls to the author to ensure their characters' motivation and personality come through to engage the reader and push the story forward.
I think escapism plays a big role in this issue as well. If you are reading to escape from the everyday, some people want to read about larger than life characters doing larger than life things. Sometimes people don't want to be reminded at how human we all are...
So while "weaker" male characters can be done, can they be written compellingly enough to capture readers? I think because they deviate from what's perceived to be the "norm," there's a lot less tolerance for weak characters poorly developed. It's not fair, but this is what happens in a industry driven by money and cultural tastes...
Whew...sorry about the length, Lori, but your post brought up a lot of important points!
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@writercherie · 711 weeks ago
Women have come a loooong way through history, and they've (we've) worked hard and fought to change our limitations. Because of this, we can vote, work for a job that was decidedly masculine years and years ago, and be the butt-kicking heroines we read of in books today. The male population has never really had to struggle to redefine their gender roles--it's because most of them (MOST) are content with the image of macho-ness, of being the protector, the leader, etc. Even as the times were changing, they held on to this notion as the ONE AND ONLY truth. Hence, the prejudice against effeminate men.
@writercherie · 711 weeks ago
What I would like to know though is this: Are the men shunning non-traditional character roles, or are the women doing this? Most readers are women, so are we the ones saying it is unacceptable for a male character to take on the role of a female?
In real life, I see this all the time now: there are men who are stay-at-home dads (some of them I know personally) and they don't flinch in the company of women. This has become socially acceptable, so why not in fiction? Excellent, thought-provoking post, Lori!
Anita · 711 weeks ago
Sophia Chang · 711 weeks ago
Look what great convo you sparked!
Just in time for an award too - come by the blog sometime!
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