August 1, 2011

On Subtlety and Romance

When it comes to romance, it's easy to get melodramatic. So what makes an effective romance without laying on the poetic monologues? For me, it's always been about subtlety.

No words necessary.

The characters don't need to exchange proclamations of love. It should be apparent by how they behave around each other. Simple things like his fingers at the small of her back. Her eyes following him across the room. Him noticing the way she rubs her knuckles when she's nervous. His smiles leaving her helplessly smiling in return.

Or, depending on the book, more dire things like her rushing into danger to save him, or him standing up to insurmountable odds to protect her. But these are things that should happen at the end, after the two have spent 300 pages or so getting to know each other.

There's more to character development than the progression of a romantic relationship.

One of the biggest mistakes I've seen writers make is introducing the love interest too early. For me at least, I have to care about the characters as individuals before I can care about them as a couple. If I'm introduced to character A, who then immediately decides s/he likes character B and sets out to make something of it, then I'm left wondering who these people are outside of their attraction to each other. When the romance is the only thing that defines the characters, then I find it very difficult to care or like either of them.

Now, of course, this isn't always the case. Love interests can sometimes be introduced in the first chapter and, in addition to being attracted to each other, they're still complete individuals with their own issues and character arcs.

Wait, what?!

And then there's the other side of the spectrum. The two are so subtle, barely ever thinking about each other outside of their own problems, that when the romance happens, the readers are left reeling and flipping back through the book to find some indication that they were meant to be attracted to each other.

(Not to be mistaken with the rivalship, in which the chemistry is still very much there, just on a competitive or unexpected level)
---
Some of my favorite YA romances:
• Anna and Étienne (Anna and the French Kiss)
• Kaye and Roiben (Tithe + Ironside)


So what do you guys think? What makes an effective romance for you? What are some of your favorite romantic titles (YA or otherwise)?

Comments (14)

Loading... Logging you in...
  • Logged in as
I <3 this post! Subtle cues are almost always better for conveying romantic interest than emotional indicators, especially early on in a relationship -- something I need to remember ;)
1 reply · active 712 weeks ago
Thank you! The thing that kills me with relationships is that they start declaring their love for each other (if not out loud, then in their head) waaaay too early. Emotions should build slowly, that way we learn to love them right along with them!
Really great food for thought! It's got to be subtle- but not too suble and actually identifiying with both parties is imporant. Nothing is worse than an MC who falls for the 'bad boy' who has absolutely no redeaming qualities whatsoever. You keep waiting for something attractive in his personality to rise to the surface but...no. lol.
1 reply · active less than 1 minute ago
haha, yes, I've seen that. The reader has to find something to love in the love interest as well!
I started rewatching Fushigi Yuugi, and even though I'm pretty sure I thought it was cute and oh-so-romantic when I was younger, now I can't help but cringe and laugh at all the proclamations of love.

I think the best kind of romances start out as friendships. That way--as you mentioned--the characters can get to know each other, and the readers can see how they are outside of a relationship. I also like making them hold out on saying "I love you" or even thinking that they like the other person, because I like writing stories that doesn't focus on only love. There are other things characters need to focus on.
1 reply · active less than 1 minute ago
haha, I love Fushigi Yuugi and I have a feeling that if I want to continue loving it, I can never rewatch it XD It really is ridiculous. A few episodes in and they're already OMG I LOVE YOUUUU. And it never stops.

Yes! I do love those sorts of relationships as well. And the "I love you" never even has to come if it's obvious enough to the reader :D
You are right on the money!

I'm not a prude, but I do not care for graphic sex scenes in novels, especially if it's YA. Thankfully, most YA sex scenes are not graphic. I'm all for the subtle hints. Btw, sex does not equal love.

Love scenes definitely do not have to be melodramatic to show a point that the characters are in love. I had a chapter where the male mc finally kisses the female mc at the end of the chapter. I just wrote that they kissed. One critiquer later messaged me to say she's still thinking of the kiss. I thought that was great. EVen though there weren't a lot of descriptions or emotions to accompany the big "kiss" moment, it stayed with the reader, and therefore it did its job. Sometimes, less is more. Cliche, I know, but it's true. ;)
1 reply · active less than 1 minute ago
I don't think there should be graphic sex scenes in YA novels unless it serves a purpose. I'm not objecting to sex in YA, I'm just objecting to graphic, gratuitous sex lol.

And that's wonderful to hear. You're right in that that is exactly what you want your readers to remember and hold with them.
Great post, Lori. I prefer it when characters like each other for who they are and not because they think the other person is hot. There's got to be more to the relationship than that. My other pet peeve is when fall in love by chapter two. Boring. Now if the love interest dies in chapter two, then we're talking. ;)
1 reply · active 712 weeks ago
Haha, love by chapter two just lets all the tension out of the love story. There are exceptions, of course, but mainly it's the anticipation of WILL THEY BE TOGETHER? that drives a romance forward.
Great post! And I loved the Tithe books! Actually, loved them even more than the Wicked Beatiful lot. :)
1 reply · active less than 1 minute ago
Oh goodness, me toooo. Tithe, Valiant and Ironside are my favorite of all the faery series out there :D
I love subtle romances, the way you can feel and see how much two people love each other without them ever having to say anything. I also like it because it draws out that are they/aren't they feeling if it's an unconfirmed romance. It can be frustrating waiting for them to realize or confess their feelings, but I love that MOMENT when they finally do. :)
1 reply · active 711 weeks ago
Definitely. Drawing it out and not giving the readers satisfaction is also a great way to prolong interest :D

Post a new comment

Comments by

 

Lori M Lee Copyright © 2010 Design by Ipietoon Blogger Template Graphics from Questofdreams (Lori Lee)